How to Embrace Authentic Mindfulness in 2019

Do you ever feel like you're not "zen" enough? There are a lot of cliches out there about what mindfulness is supposed to look like. "Mindfulness is drinking tea, rather than coffee"  "Mindfulness is feeling grateful on-demand" Or "Mindfulness is exerting a kind of zen acceptance of difficulties and not getting upset" And I get mindfully annoyed when I see these kinds o...
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Make space in your life to be present

It’s the Wednesday after holiday traditions that are essentially the polar opposite of minimalism...Thanksgiving dinner and Black Friday/CyberMonday shopping. Maybe it's an odd time to be talking about the benefits of minimizing. Or maybe it's the perfect time. Because the main point of minimalism and mindfulness is to make space for noticing the good in your life. Minim...
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10 Things To Do for Yourself This Holiday Season

The holidays can be the time of year that we most fully 'lose' ourselves in busyness or harsh self-talk. We all have our personal ways that self-judgment or others’ judgment can threaten the experience of joy this season. So below is a list of things to keep in your mind and heart as you move forward in the next week. Remember yourself, not just the to-do list. Ther...
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How a “Mindfulness Bucket” will improve your relationships

The "self" acts a lot like water. In this video I introduce more about the idea of your "Mindfulness Bucket" which I presented with an earlier infographic. Our attention, energy, and patience are not in unending supply. Those parts of our self are our precious natural resources. And just like water, we need a bucket to contain, care for, cons...
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Why mindfulness can’t be optional

  Have you ever tried to slow down and be more mindful? I have. For a long time, I sincerely intended to make mindfulness a priority, but I would eventually fall into my autopilot habits like over-thinking and an over-focus on problem-solving. It felt right to focus on finding solutions and the stuff that need to be done. But there is something we must remember......
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20 Signs You Are Invisible in Your Relationships

Do any of these things sound familiar? You feel like a lot of things in your life need changing. From the outside, it probably looks to others like your relationship with your partner or spouse is more okay than it actually feels. You feel taken-for-granted at work and/or home quite frequently. When you think about mindfulness, it honestly seems like a waste of ti...
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The power of our autopilot

Don't underestimate the power of your autopilot. Learning to drive a manual-transmission car is the best metaphor I can think of to explain the relationship between the conscious and auto-pilot parts of your mind.  Automatic transmissions may work just fine to translate your intended direction via the steering wheel, gas pedal and brakes. But people are often drawn to th...
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We will never force change

A poem I wrote early in my work in addiction treatment .... We will never force change It comes from within and runs from pressure We can only believe in the goodness that bears us all And the connection that can open with anyone With the right patience & acceptance All the clichés whirl around my head With meaning I can’t believe was absent When it comes to self-im...
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How to avoid the most common obstacle to change

It's Tuesday morning and you are three days into your new clean eating plan. You've been feeling great and proud of yourself. But this morning was rough. You got up late, the kids were arguing the entire way to school, and now you are facing that box of donuts in the break room with far less resolve than you had about skipping dessert last night. This is where the ...
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