Why self-compassion is a prerequisite for mindfulness

Maybe one of these sounds familiar? You're behind on several tasks at home or work and that dark feeling of delinquency comes over you saying "What is wrong with me? ... Everyone else is on top things." Or your spouse comes home in a rotten mood and suddenly you feel kind of bad about yourself saying "They wouldn't be talking to me like this if I had... or I hadn't...." ...
Read More --

How to Feel Powerful, More of the Time

You've just spent the week working on a project that you're feeling quite good about actually. Sitting in the team meeting, waiting to give your update, you are reasonably expecting to get some kudos from your boss afterward. But that's not what happens. She drills you with some out-of-left field questions and leaves you feeling ambushed as she moves on the next agenda i...
Read More --

How to be vulnerable and strong at the same time

  At our core, we are all vulnerable. It doesn’t matter how tough, sarcastic or stoic we’ve learned to be. We can’t be authentic but not vulnerable at times. In relationships, vulnerable feelings like sadness and fear draw us into connection with others. They create our appetite for closeness. But without the proper attention, our vulnerability can drive communicatio...
Read More --

10 Things To Do for Yourself This Holiday Season

The holidays can be the time of year that we most fully 'lose' ourselves in busyness or harsh self-talk. We all have our personal ways that self-judgment or others’ judgment can threaten the experience of joy this season. So below is a list of things to keep in your mind and heart as you move forward in the next week. Remember yourself, not just the to-do list. Ther...
Read More --