How to be on the “right” side in an argument

I’m at my desk, staring at a long list of documents to edit, and I feel that old familiar urge to open a different browser tab and check the news for a second … to give myself a little break. Before you know it, I’m down the rabbit hole, feeling the gamut of worry, confusion and often fear about the gravity and depth of conflict surrounding us. For me, the darkest thou...
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Some cause for hope

My parents were married for over forty years, with a good amount of common ground between them. But their political leanings grew in different directions after the last general election. I’ve been thinking about that a lot as this election gets closer. I loved them both very much, but I could only agree with one of them. It wasn’t easy for sure, but my love for them bot...
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How to balance habits in a time of fear

It's been a hard week. And I have been thinking a lot about my grandmothers in the last few days, especially while in my kitchen. They both experienced the Great Depression of the 1930's and World War II, as adult women. Until recently, I had a simplistic imagination of what it must have been like ... living with daily fear .... having to ration food and necessities. I'...
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How to be authentically brave

I grew up in a pretty religious environment, and as I got older and more questioning, one struggle stands out. When something difficult or tragic happened, many of the religious people around me would respond with some version of the message that we should sort of just accept the difficulty, and trust in our higher power. I can feel my blood pressure rising now, even as...
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Some Micro-Mindfulness for Covid-19

"I am afraid ... but we'll figure this out" I was walking my dog this morning, and I felt a headache coming on. It’s spring pollen season here, so allergies have been kicking up. But something else came to mind too. I’ve been more and more convinced by the mind-body literature out there that suggests we consider the emotional factors that could be contributing to our b...
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How to Feel Powerful, More of the Time

You've just spent the week working on a project that you're feeling quite good about actually. Sitting in the team meeting, waiting to give your update, you are reasonably expecting to get some kudos from your boss afterward. But that's not what happens. She drills you with some out-of-left field questions and leaves you feeling ambushed as she moves on the next agenda i...
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Use fear at the right time

Isn’t it amazing how much your thinking can change with your mood? When my fear is triggered, I can question things that in any other moment I know are quite secure. It’s something to respect about our humanity. Fear doesn’t just change how we think. Fear changes what we think. Fear activates a kind of supercomputer that runs through an astounding number of possibilities, ch...
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