Make space in your life to be present

It’s the Wednesday after holiday traditions that are essentially the polar opposite of minimalism...Thanksgiving dinner and Black Friday/CyberMonday shopping. Maybe it's an odd time to be talking about the benefits of minimizing. Or maybe it's the perfect time. Because the main point of minimalism and mindfulness is to make space for noticing the good in your life. Minim...
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How to Feel Powerful, More of the Time

You've just spent the week working on a project that you're feeling quite good about actually. Sitting in the team meeting, waiting to give your update, you are reasonably expecting to get some kudos from your boss afterward. But that's not what happens. She drills you with some out-of-left field questions and leaves you feeling ambushed as she moves on the next agenda i...
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Five Lessons I Had to Learn to Be Better In My Relationships

I stand before you on this Valentine’s Day, immensely grateful for the wisdom I found rather late in my life. I turned 40 this year. And if I could tell my 20-something self that I would be 36 before getting married, I probably would’ve lost my marbles. Or more likely, I wouldn’t have believed it, because I was blind to the relationship truths I’m going to share with you today…...
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Commit to a ‘Judgment-Free January’ (a FREE e-course)

  As you wade through the many articles, blogs and products promising to  help you lose weight, win that promotion, and every other goal you might have for the new year, I invite you to consider one more resolution: Join me in committing to a Judgment-Free January - a FREE email course you can begin throughout the month of January. Judgment, the harsh emotional k...
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20 Signs You Are Invisible in Your Relationships

Do any of these things sound familiar? You feel like a lot of things in your life need changing. From the outside, it probably looks to others like your relationship with your partner or spouse is more okay than it actually feels. You feel taken-for-granted at work and/or home quite frequently. When you think about mindfulness, it honestly seems like a waste of ti...
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The power of your autopilot

Don't underestimate the power of your autopilot. Learning to drive a manual-transmission car is the best metaphor I can think of to explain mindlessness, and the relationship between the conscious and autopilot parts of your mind. Automatic transmissions may work just fine to translate your intended direction via the steering wheel, gas pedal and brakes. But people are ofte...
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We will never force change

A poem I wrote early in my work in addiction treatment .... We will never force change It comes from within and runs from pressure We can only believe in the goodness that bears us all And the connection that can open with anyone With the right patience & acceptance All the clichés whirl around my head With meaning I can’t believe was absent When it comes to self-im...
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